I wanted to chat with you all today about my thoughts on life balance. I define life balance as living your life in alignment with your priorities and incorporating more of what brings you joy into daily life. While I coach people around living more balanced lives, I don’t believe that our lives are or should be balanced at all times. Often times, my clients are stuck in a cycle of just reacting to their many daily responsibilities. They feel guilt, shame, and unfulfilled.
There are seasons in our lives where the responsibilities of our lives (careers, parenting) take precedence over other priorities-and that’s ok. The first step is to identify what’s important to you in life. Some common priorities are family, purpose/career, finances, and health. Whatever you choose as your priorities make sure they are really important to you and not something you think ‘should’ be a priority. Once you have a list, determine if these things are getting attention in your life. Resist the urge to judge yourself here, simply become aware. Finally, choose ONE priority as your focus. Some of my clients will choose one priority and have that be their focus for a month or two and once they feel they’ve fully integrated this priority will build upon it by adding another. This approach gives my clients forward momentum, and removes the guilt and shame they feel over not being more proactive in their lives.
Another exercise you can do is identify 10 things that bring you joy and strategically sprinkle more of those things into your life. This requires that you be very deliberate make strategic. For example, if you identify reading as bringing you joy, where could you add that to your day? Often times, just doing something you love for 15 minutes will have a positive impact on your day and life.
So make a list of your 10 priorities and a list of 10 things that bring you joy. Focus on one priority at a time and deliberately incorporate more joy in your life. Comment below with your results or any questions on this process. Remember, with some awareness and planning, you can have both responsibility and joy-go get it!